what’s in a name?
The word “Sikhona” (si:’kɔh:nah) is a part of a common greeting among Zulu and Xhosa people of South Africa. Whereas we here in the States might say, “Hey!” or “How are you?”…or in some circles a slight head nod and grunt to acknowledge others…the Zulu say, “Sawubona,” which means “I see you.”
In response to being seen, the reply “Sikhona” follows, which loosely translates to, “I am here.”
Can you imagine what it would feel like to have that exchange with someone?
A loved one? Even a stranger?
“I see you.” You are important to me. You are worthy of being seen.
“I am here.” I am here to be seen by you. I exist. I matter.
“Sikhona” honors the belief that “I did not exist until you saw me.” We are who we are in the context of our relationships, and when we are seen by others, fully present, we truly come to life.
In therapy, we’ve come to understand one of the deepest points of pain for people is feeling invisible and unknown, so our culture at Sikhona Holistic Therapy and Wellness is built around therapists who aim to truly see each of their clients and celebrate their inherent humanity and value.
It’s also why we specialize in relational therapy, because our heart is in the work of creating evidenced-based spaces where people become empowered to see themselves, their partners, and family members through the lenses of compassion, curiosity, and gratitude.